AITA for Telling My Brother « It Takes Two to Tango »?
What People Had to Say
« NTA. He should get a vasectomy. »
Several people pointed out that if Cameron truly doesn’t want any more children, there are steps he can take himself instead of blaming his wife.
« He knew exactly who he married. »
Many commenters noted that Alina has been consistent from the very beginning. She never hid the fact that she wanted to be a stay-at-home mother with a large family.
The only thing that changed was Cameron’s feelings once the financial reality set in.
« Reality caught up with him. »
Others argued that Cameron wasn’t tricked into this lifestyle. He enthusiastically agreed to it years ago, only to discover that supporting such a large family on one income is much harder than he imagined.
« He has just as much responsibility. »
Numerous commenters emphasized that Cameron isn’t a passive participant.
He could have:
- Used contraception.
- Chosen to stop having more children.
- Gotten a vasectomy.
- Had an honest conversation with his wife before another pregnancy.
Instead, he continued having children while becoming increasingly resentful of the very future they had planned together.
« His feelings are valid—but his blame isn’t. »
Many people sympathized with how stressed and overwhelmed Cameron must feel. Raising six children is financially and emotionally demanding.
However, they felt it was unfair to blame Alina for wanting the exact life she has wanted since she was a teenager.
If Cameron has changed his mind about having a large family, that’s understandable. But that’s a change in his expectations—not hers.
The overwhelming opinion was NTA.
Most people believed your comment wasn’t cruel—it was simply the truth. Cameron is allowed to regret decisions he made when he was younger, but he can’t pretend those decisions were made by someone else. The family they built was the result of choices made by both husband and wife, and accepting that responsibility is the first step toward finding a solution.
